One of my favorite things I used to say:
I'm done with this day...
I'm done with this person...
I'm done with this job...
Wow that feels good...NOT. Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we feel the need to constantly complain? Why do we think it makes us feel better to get these things off our chest but then never do anything to fix it.
We say things like:
It will be better when we have a bigger house...
It will get better when I have a better job...
It will get better once my kids are older...
I was never a big fan of feeling frustrated. Who is? Why was I feeling so frustrated with motherhood? This was the one thing I knew with out a doubt that wanted in life. So why was I complaining about it?
It will pass...
Don't be too hard on yourself...
Well I don't like this feeling and I don't want to feel it anymore. I want this feeling gone. If I am done with anything, it's this feeling.
How can I get rid of it? Change my thinking. This sounds simple right... just change the way I think...how insightful? Well it's hard if you don't believe it, if you don't believe in yourself and trust that you can.
I started asking myself who I wanted to be:
Was yelling at my kids making me feel any better?
Why am I getting so frustrated with these children that I prayed so hard to have?
How will I teach them how to deal with their emotions when I can't even deal with my own?
I started thinking:
How lucky am I to have these two beautiful children, and a sweet funny husband that loves me?
How lucky am I that I get to get up and go work at Starbucks-a company that cares, that thinks, that loves, and I get to see, learn from, and touch the lives of so many customers and partners everyday?
How lucky am I that we live in a nice home, and I get to take care of our nice home and nice things?
My life began to change. I started to feel happy. I was more calm. I began to realize when we change our perspective we can change our lives, and the lives of others.
You really can change your own reality based on the way you think.
This is is what I want to teach my girls:
This is believing in yourself and others
This is happiness
This is living
This is...The Mom I Dream To Be.